Dads and Peanut Butter & Jelly

When you are going through some crazy life shit, it actually really helps to have a crazy dad. 

I never thought I would say this.

However, when you need to be you, and the you that you need to be is a bit off kilter- opposing social norms, then low and behold, your crazy dad is about the only person who's going to understand it. 

Turns out, my weird, crazy dad is weird and crazy for the same reasons that I'm weird and crazy.  Neither of us much care about what others think of us.  And we both know a secret- the meaning of life is about being happy.  Not a quest for happiness, but being happy in the moment.  And he has some damn good advice:

Do what makes you happy, and everyone else will fall in line behind you.

And after that, he made me a peanut butter and jelly sandwich with a side of grapes. 

And I decided that while others may judge him for being weird and crazy, I'm not going to.  Because when my dad dies, I'll never worry about if he was happy or not, because I know that he is.

Going Through Stressful Times

Christians say that if God brings you to it, he'll bring you through it.  I've never been a Christian, but I will say that some things in life are inevitable.  They are going to happen. You can fight it or you can rise above and accept the change and move on, knowing that this stressful time is temporary and beyond the stress, is another period of happiness, lightness, and good times. 

I think stress is so often self inflicted. Stress can be something that happens to you, but often, it's really just how you think and feel and react to what's happening that creates (or doesn't) the stress. 

My wish for everyone I care about is to understand at some point how they can mold their life into what they want instead of being a victim of circumstance. Take it as it comes and  do the best you can. 

Like floating on your back down a peaceful clear river, with no aim or destination, but living the moment and knowing the river keeps going.